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Whisperer

The following is a post from NBA.com written by Idan Ravin (aka The Hoops Whisperer), who first became known to me because he was Carmelo Anthony’s hoops trainer. Idan has also trained various other NBA All-Stars. Knowing that I don’t copy-paste much of other people’s work unless I find it compelling, read this.

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Welcome to this week’s Morning Tip. This week’s guest columnist, Idan Ravin, has become one of the league’s most in-demand personal trainers. In an ultra-competitive business where people are desperate for access to athletes, Ravin has built an amazing clientele, working with the likes of LeBron James, Kobe Bryant, Carmelo Anthony, Chris Paul, Kevin Durant, Amar’e Stoudemire, Joe Johnson, Rudy Gay, Gilbert Arenas and others, mainly through word of mouth. Known as the “Hoops Whisperer,” Ravin keeps his methods for improving the NBA’s elite close to the vest. But this week, Ravin shares his appreciation for the journey that many pro players make to the big time. Hope you enjoy it.

I’m often asked whether the NBA players I train are “good guys.” An interesting question because it suggests people want to find a way to humanize the professional athlete and make them more familiar. Television, print and the Web bring the NBA player into our homes. We see them compete, win, lose, succeed and struggle.

But it is still not enough. They want to know, “What are they really like?”

In my eyes, they are like you and me. There are good days and not-so good-days. They can be careful and careless. They can make good decisions and not-so-good decisions. It is not as important for me to share with you whether they are good or bad guys, but, rather, that we can find inspiration from their unlikely journey.

It’s easy to say you want to be a doctor, lawyer, accountant, banker, consultant, journalist, graphic designer, architect, etc. After all, there’s a traditional path to take and inevitably there’s someone you know who has taken this journey. It is palatable. There is a path of bread crumbs you can follow until you make it “home.” In other words, “If I go to school, get good grades, get good standardized test scores, excel with my internship, then I will eventually reach my goal and succeed.”

Now, imagine an 8-year-old boy living in Brooklyn, or Inglewood, or Riga, Latvia, or Bologna, Italy, or Vancouver, Canada, or Berlin, Germany telling his mother he wants to play in the NBA when he grows up. The numbers don’t lie: there are 30 teams and 13 to 15 roster spots, but at least 20 million children/teenagers/men that play organized basketball around the world. The odds are frightening. Yet, each NBA player started at this point. I call it Point A or, “I have a dream and I am crazy enough to believe I can do this.”

The dream starts with a bounce of a ball, and a hoop, somewhere in some park or gym around the world. For the sake of this story, let’s call our 8-year-old Billy. At an early age, Billy learns the game by playing in the park and devouring every bit of information he can to develop his game. For the next eight years, he continues to practice, to play and to improve. He becomes a very good player in his age group and attracts the attention of AAU travelling teams and high school coaches. He selects a travelling team that complements his style of play. The travelling team swallows up his summer. It is an enormous time commitment. Along with practice, he plays in multiple summer tournaments around the country.

For the next two years, he plays well with his AAU travelling team. He catches the eye of several top universities. These schools would like to recruit him but they have some reservations regarding his ability to play other positions in college, as well as the strength of his high school schedule. They suggest he transfer high schools so he can play against the top high school talent in the country. After talking it over with his family and his AAU coaches, he elects to leave behind friends and family and transfer from his neighborhood high school to a small prep school located in rural Virginia.

Billy packs two bags and leaves his family and friends behind. When he arrives on campus, he is shocked to see this small campus is nothing more than a few buildings, a gymnasium and a cafeteria hidden in a small town. Each day becomes the same until he eventually loses track of time: 5 a.m. wake-up call; weight room, practice, school, practice, homework, lights out. Billy has traded his adolescence for a goal and a dream. Unlike other teenagers his age, Billy has no weekends at the mall, dates, time to hang out with friends. But his sacrifices pan out. He becomes a starter on the team and excels against the other top-ranked prep schools.

Billy receives college basketball scholarship offers from many top ranked Division I programs. He narrows his choice of schools to Duke, North Carolina, Michigan State and Connecticut. He visits each of these schools. He meets with the coaching staff and team, and tours the campus and facility. He eventually selects a school after analyzing which team has an NBA system and has produced the largest number of NBA players at his position. He announces his decision to the media. He receives several nasty e-mails and phone calls from third parties disappointed he didn’t select their schools.

Five months later, the pressure escalates as Billy arrives on campus. He must manage 12 school credits per semester, at least 15 hours of basketball practice each week, mandatory lifting sessions, school work, classes, mandatory study hall, new found popularity and the high expectations from himself and the public as a highly recruited player. Each game is nationally televised and so each game brings its own internal and external pressures. Billy battles through sprained ankles, a dislocated finger and a bout of food poisoning he sustains while on the road. Nevertheless, he plays well . He leads his team to a top 20 ranking, a second-place finish in the conference and the Sweet 16 of the NCAAs.

Billy catches the eye of NBA scouts. NBA scouts project him as a top 20 pick in the upcoming Draft. Billy must now decide whether to hire an agent, to declare for the Draft and forego his remaining collegiate eligibility, or remain in college. His college coach and others in the university encourage him to stay in school. Meanwhile, his family and AAU coach, who love him but who also are expecting to be taken care of, encourage him to declare for the Draft. Billy elects to trust his instincts and declare for the NBA.

However, now he faces the monumental task of interviewing and hiring an agent, lawyer and financial advisor. This is new terrain for him. He understandably doesn’t know which questions to ask or what to look for when retaining the services of these professionals. He again turns to his intuition to guide him in the process of retaining advisors and counsel. Only three weeks after the college season ends, Billy selects an agent, declares for the Draft and withdraws from school.

Billy packs two bags, again, less than two years after starting his senior year of high school, and relocates to a new city to prepare for the Draft. For the next seven weeks, six days per week, he wakes at 6:30 a.m. to begin his two-hour on-court training sessions. From there he immediately visits with a strength coach for an hour weightlifting session. If he is lucky, he sneaks in a short nap before returning to the gym in the late evening. And it begins again the next day.

In May, Billy begins to crisscross the United States, auditioning for every NBA team with a first-round pick that has interest in him. He flies in the evening, squeezing his 6-foot-5 frame into middle and window coach seats. He is met at the airport and taken to his hotel. He changes to jeans and a collared shirt and heads to dinner for a quasi-interview with the team’s front office and staff. He returns to his hotel and heads to bed so he can be fresh for the morning workout with the other top players at his position.

He arrives early for his workouts. Each team puts Billy through a set of rigorous on-court drills to evaluate his basketball IQ and skill set. From there, he meets with the team’s strength and conditioning coach, who puts him through rigorous strength, speed and conditioning drills to evaluate his physical talents. He then meets with the NBA team’s front office, where he again interviews with the general manager, assistant general manager and director of player personnel. He repeats this process 10 times with 10 teams over the course of two weeks.

In late June, Billy is selected with the 17th pick of the NBA Draft. The next day the team flies him to the NBA city to sign a contract, meet the local media and begin preparing for Summer League. Summer League is more intense then he imagined. All eyes are on him. He is expected to perform immediately and begin to master a playbook as thick as a telephone directory. The NBA does not have much patience and it does not issue much positive reinforcement. There is no time for hugs and kisses. Performance and work product are the metrics for success. The game at the NBA level travels at supersonic speed. Every player is big, fast and with a “Harvard-like” style basketball pedigree.

Billy plays well in Summer League. Veterans camp is several weeks away so Billy elects to remain in the city to continue to prepare for the season. Many of his friends do not understand why Billy does not want to vacation and begin to spend his money. Billy recognizes the pressures associated with NBA life and the expectations of a first-round pick. It is now the end of September and camp is scheduled to start. Two practices per day, film sessions, team bonding exercises and a heightened intensity from players, coaches and front office alarm Billy.

He faces grown men who will do anything to earn a roster spot. Many have families to feed. Billy faces veterans who are 10 years older, who will do what is necessary to ensure the young rookie does not capture all the minutes at the position. This means hard fouls, mental games and physical play. For several of these veteran players, it is also a contract year. They challenge Billy even more because they need the minutes on the court to puff up their statistics, so they have more leverage when negotiating their next contract. Nevertheless, Billy remains focused, poised and plays well in camp. He earns a start for the opening regular-season game.

It’s now October 28. Ten years or so since he first began working toward his dream. He lines up for the jump ball. He looks around and witnesses the size, strength and experience of the players on the floor with him. For each game, each team will spend countless hours watching and scouting his deficiencies and tendencies so they can exploit him. Throughout the season Billy will continue to play hard and do what he loves. Yet, at the same time he has to learn the complexities associated with NBA life. These include dealing with the ego of the team franchise player, an overbearing head coach, a team filled with veteran players, a complex playbook, a new city, a new community, a new life, media, extensive travel and expectations from family and friends.

Billy’s journey to the NBA has been a journey filled with uncertainty each step of the way. But he had unshakeable resolve and commitment to his dream.

After two years, Billy has become a solid pro. He’s earned the respect of his teammates and coaches. He’s making good money and has a solid foundation in life. But he wants even more. He doesn’t just want to be good, even very good; he wants to be one of the best, a perennial All-Star, someone who leaves a mark on the game. That same drive that made him believe he could make the pros when he was 8 still burns in him, still pushes him. He knows that there are people out there that can take his skills and make them better, using their minds and their methods to push him even further.

And he comes to me. With one question: “How do I get better?”

I find inspiration from Billy’s story. The NBA is filled with guys like Billy. In many ways we are not so different. If you are a dreamer like me, you never think your dreams are crazy or farfetched. You just accept the uncertainty. You learn to trust your instinct, develop a talent for catching your balance on this very windy road while finding peace in your commitment.

Life,

Idan

You can read more about Ravin’s work with NBA stars here, here, here, here and here. His website iswww.idanravin.com and he can also be reached on Twitter ( @IdanWan).

Posted 1 day, 3 hours ago.

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Feel The Breeze, Part 2: Call My Lawyer!!!

This is comical.

(excuse my chuckling.)

Those of you who have been following for awhile (and ALL of my college associates) may recall this post from Fall 2008 about one Mr. Mark Anthony Librizzi. “Breeze,” as we’ll call him — all according to the copy & pasted article from the Centre Daily newspaper — had drunkenly stolen a police cruiser from outside a bar, drove it home, and told a friend exactly what he had done. He was later arrested for the offense.

Anywho, we owe Breeze an applause — the charges have been dropped!! This is, according to Sophie Lily Weinstein, the Founder and “Cheif” Creative Officer at Synergy Media L.L.C. Sophie holds a B.A. in communications from Penn State (Hey!!), according to her (apparently self-written) LinkedIn profile.

Ms. Weinstein emailed me recently:

Dear Mr. Baldwin,

I am writing to you in regards to the Friday, October 3, 2008 posting involving my client M. Anthony Librizzi. on the ‘There’s Only One Dre Baldwin’ blog.  The subject matter  is slanderous.  All charges against Mr. Librizzi have been dropped.   Legal action will be taken if the post is not removed within 48 hours.  A defamation suit against you will be filled ( <<< I can’t make this stuff up. -Dre) with Commonwealth of Pennsylvania.  Google and other said parties will be informed of the objectionable content.

Please resolve these issues swiftly.

Sincerely,

Sophie Lily Weinstein

C.C.O. Synergy Media, S3M, L.L.C.

(201) 563-8364
Sophielilyweinstein@gmail.com

(laughing at how far I can really go with this…)

On a serious note, I’m actually very disappointed in this email. Disappointed that Sophie had the idea that she could send me an email posing as a lawyer and that I would actually buy it. A back-handed-bitch-slap in the face to my intelligence. Disappointed that Sophie has no idea what “slanderous” means. Disappointed that “Founder” Sophie Lily Weinstein’s name is not mentioned on the Synergy Media L.L.C.’s website. Disappointed that Sophie is the founder of a company and doesn’t even have an email address at the domain of the company (feel free to friend Sophie on FacebookBreeze too, while you’re at it).

(shaking my head at myself for even writing this post…)

I’m even more disappointed in Mr. Breeze. Disappointed that the Catherine Bateson quote on his profile (“Storytelling is fundamental to the human search for meaning“) is almost as ironic as this Sports Illustrated cover from March 2000.   Disappointed that his professional resumé states that he was at West Chester University from 2002-2006 when Breeze PLAYED 17 BASKETBALL GAMES FOR PSU-ALTOONA IN 2003 (as they say on Twitter, smh). Disappointed that Breeze doesn’t know that I have some personal experience, pertaining to Breeze, that would embarrass him worse than anything I have ever blogged about in 5 years online — that is, if he wants to take it there. Or maybe Breeze does know, and he’s just stupid.

(my stomach hurts from giggling.)

I wouldn’t say this about Breeze, but, being that she’s a PSU grad, Sophie Lily Weinstein is probably smart. So, to Sophie:

As you asked, the issues you mentioned have been resolved — swiftly — by Yours Truly. The smart thing  for you and your client would be to digest this post and then forget that this ever happened. I will do the same. Since we’ve never met, Sophie, allow me to share something about me: I have a penchant for taking things too far. I also have a bad habit of, one way or another, embarrassing people who come at me the wrong way (and it seems to have gotten worse with age). You can be smart or you can be stupid. Do your client a solid, and make Penn State proud.

Sincerely,

Dre “DreAllDay” Baldwin

Posted 7 months, 3 weeks ago.

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Guest Appearance

Below is a guest blog entry I did on SistaSports.com, hosted by the always-entertaining Eb The Celeb. Enjoy.

(And the edited profanity was done by Eb, not me. Y’all know me better than that *wink*. )

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Guest Blogger Dre Baldwin’s Most Memorable Sports Moment of 2009

The sports story of the year decade wasn’t even a goddamn sports story.
We all know what happened: Tiger Woods crashed his SUV. His wife “saved” him from the truck before the cops arrived, with a conveniently handy golf club.
Then the tabloids took control.
Tiger f*cked this chick. She denied it but no one really cared about her.
Hey, Tiger f*cked this one, too!
OK, Tiger definitely f*cked this broad — he even left her a voice mail with his name on it!! And on & on it went (goes?).

My intention when the story first hit America over its collective head was to not even write or comment about it — essentially this is a private, family situation (not that I wouldn’t write about one that so moved me, but this one didn’t — and doesn’t). No laws broken, no court dates, no criminal activity. And I think a large percentage of folks wouldn’t give a damn about it either had it not involved the highest net-worth athlete in the history of history.

What surprised me, but at the same time didn’t surprise me, was how so many people, both on TV and common folk (Tweeters and Facebookers, I’m looking at you), were so quick to jump on their high horses and talk down on Tiger Woods — just how disgusting and terrible a man he had been exposed to being.

  • The grass-must-be-green-over-there group:  ‘If I had a Swedish model for a wife and a billion dollars, I’d be good and happy for life! What a fool!’
  • The appalled women group: ‘Why even get married if you’re gonna cheat??? Tiger is despicable. I hate him!’
  • The I’d-never-be-that-dumb male group: ‘This fool left his name on the voice mail. He ain’t have no hush money for these hoes?
  • And the most incredulous of them all — The self-righteous males who just couldn’t understand how Tiger could do such a thing: ‘Tiger needs to step away from golf and get his life together… He has disgraced his wife, kids parents and family!… The PGA should suspend him!… Why did Tiger’s friends not tell him not to do that???… Tiger has absolutely no respect for the holy sacrament of marriage!’

It is never smart, in my opinion, to get to spewing opinions on another person/ couple’s private situations, no matter how public they become. Even if it’s your job to do so — it is completely within your rights as a sports TV person (and you’ll keep your job) to say, “This is obviously a big story, but it’s really none of our business. Let the Enquirers and US Weeklys dig in. Let Tiger deal with his family, and we will jump right on it when he starts swinging golf clubs again.” There were a few talking heads who did take this route in their own way, notably Jason Whitlock  of the KC Star.
All that aside, dammit, this was easily the sports story of the year — albeit with no points scored, no whistles blown, and no Gatorade bath at the final buzzer. Just trending topics, after-the-fact analysis, and a long off-season for a guy who rarely loses.

Mr. Dre Baldwin
www.DreAllDay.com
Twitter.com/DreAllDay
Facebook.com/DreBaldwin

Posted 8 months, 1 week ago.

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My Nizzle

Below is a post comment email I recently received from “Tom,” who came across a post from my old blog titled “Fa’ Shizzle,” one of my favorite pieces to write. I’m posting his comment in its entirety with no retorts (for now). Read away.

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I watched a few of your ball handling videos on YouTube and thought that you might have a few deeper insights into foot work and positioning in regards to scoring zones on your website DreAllDay.com, which has unfortunately led me here.

I’m white, 21, and a basketball player. Obviously playing a predominately black sport, and playing it well I might add, has given me a a solid mix of friends and acquaintances and the only thing I will never understand about black culture is the use of “N word.” (well that and their fascination with self-serving rappers like Mike Jones and Snoop circa 2009.) Why is it okay for one group to express rights that another group cannot? Equality, unwavering equality should be our ultimate goal. Black America is still not a free America, not completely, but by making ethnic/cultural distinction, as well as affording ethnic privileges to a select few, only separates us further. Part of today’s racism still lingers from yesterday’s mentality, but it also stems from how the hip-hop culture portrays itself. You wanna be a gansta? Well don’t expect to be taken that seriously.

By forcing this lifestyle down our throats you force us to take notice of just how different we really are. The actions of a popular few are defining an entire generation of Americans, black and white.

On top of the damage you’re doing to your own culture, it’s also unfair. Logically a word is just a noise that we associate with an object or idea. So why the uproar? Intelligent, rational people will understand that the only words that matter are the ones that motivate love or hate. The casual use of the “N word” does neither. And who made you or anyone else a member of the secret English police? Who has the right to say what I can and cannot say. I live in TN and hear Christian propaganda every time I start a conversation or turn on the radio, but until I hear those words uttered by a public official in an official statement or at a public proceeding I have no right to be angry, they are merely expressing their right to free speech. I believe on your FAQ someone asked why you talk shit or something of that nature and your response was free speech. Why the double standard? Equality is not a destination, it is a journey. A journey that no one person can undertake alone, yet each step must be taken individually. As we approach our goals the dangers of complacency become more prevalent, allowing falsehoods to permeate our collective minds, turning reality into reality TV and taking power away from the free spirit. Damning us with popular culture.

Also why the distinction between Latin cats and Asians? Asians suffered the same plight Latinos face today in the late 1800′s to early 1900′s. The Irish, Polish, and Italian immigrants also faced prejudice and persecution, it just wasn’t as well documented. How about Native Americans? And why do mixed ethnicities get a pass? What if a half black, half white guy looks and acts white, can he say it? How about a 1/8 black, 1/4 Latino, 5/8 Asian guy? Could the late Michael Jackson say it? How about Steve Martin’s character from “The Jerk”? If I have a black child can I say it? If teach black lab to speak, is this a word I should omit from it its vocabulary? Or is it cool because it’s black?

How about s non-American black person, they face none of the same prejudices you do, have they earned the right to say the heralded “N word”?

Anyway, nice ball handling vids, watched some of your shooting videos, pretty consistent mechanics, just a little slow on the release (maybe its different in person) Well I hope you make it to the NBA, and I hope you continue to motivate young people to get out of their houses. Peace.

Posted 8 months, 2 weeks ago.

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Talk To ‘Em

Here is a copy-and-pasted post on my man Johan’s basketball blog in which he interviewed me:

Interviewing International Superstar Dre Baldwin

Dre Baldwin has not always been a superstar, on his personal website he writes interesting stories about how he used to spend countless of hours on the playground, practicing all parts of his game. As we all can see his hard work has paid off. Dre has played in many of the best leagues in Europe: and yet he is still trying to take his game to the next level – the NBA.
We caught up with the Dre and if he makes it, he promises he won’t let his online fans down..

1) Where are you going to play this season?

I am going to play wherever the best overall situation is going to be. I have not signed yet.

2) We have all seen your many NBA workout videos on YouTube. When is your plan to play there and what team would you prefer to play for?

I want to play in the NBA AS SOON AS POSSIBLE! I feel I can step on a practice floor and compete right now at that level. Of course we all know the business does not work that way so in the meantime I’ll be working hard and keeping my eyes and ears open.

3) What kicks will you be rocking this season and why?

I grabbed a couple pairs of the Nike Hyperdunks as soon as they dropped back in Summer 2008 and I have played in Hyperdunks every day since. I think I’ll be sticking with them for the time being, unless I come across a pair of Nike Shox BB4s (the Vince Carter “Boings”) or Nike Flightposites. Both are older, out of production kicks that I had in the early 2000s so I’m not holding my breath. The Hyperdunks are great for me.

4) Will you keep your website then/if you make it to the NBA, will it affect your activity there?

Good question! I’ve seen a couple professional athletes fall back on their online activity and social networking over the past year or so. A few times it has been after they posted something that drew unwated attention and some just stay away completely out of fear that teams may think the player is not dedicated to their full-time work. Neither of the above is the case with me, however, and let’s face it — most people KNOW me because of / from my online activity, not the other way around. So to answer your question, I will NEVER stop my social networking/ website activity because I have reached a new level in my profession. My Internet fan base/ following is very important to me and I wouldn’t isolate myself from those people to appease an employer. I would, however, not be as ‘wide-open’ as I am now in terms of my choice of words and commenting on certain other NBA players’ situations/ actions. Employees are subject to rules.

5) Who is your favorite player besides yourself and what do you especially like about him?

My favorite all-time player would be Mike Jordan because of his competitive spirit, winning attitude and leadership. Not to mention all the highlights! Also Scottie Pippen because of his all-around game and that my playing style has been favorably compared to Scottie. Another forgotten player I’ve always liked is Steve Francis, I would really want to work out with him sometime.

Stay tuned for more!

Johan’s blog can be found at http://nbashoes101.blogspot.com/

Posted 9 months, 3 weeks ago.

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Mass Production

One of my favorite quotes — I don’t recall where I got it from — that I’ve used in my Quote Of The Day series is from Marianne Williamson:

“Maturity includes the recognition that no one is going to see anything in us that we don’t see in ourselves. Stop waiting for a producer. Produce yourself.” (9.2.09)

I love this quote because it literally spoke to me. I decided to color my life with the energy of this quote. And it exciproducertes me when I see this philosophy manifested in the actions of others.

Have you ever felt the powerless feeling of  having to wait on someone else in order to complete a task or go somewhere or do something? I detest the feeling of not being able to act until another person moves thier feet.

That’s why I love Willaimson’s quote. There is no more empowering feeling than of having complete control of what you’re doing and where you’re going. And when a person knows where (s)he is going, muthafuckas move out of the damn way! Trust me on that one.

Some good exapmples of people “producing themselves” instead of waiting for some outside force:

  • Jay-Z, Dame Dash & Kareem Burke started Roc-A-Fella when major labels consistently turned down overtures from Jay-Z to sign as an artist. And we all know how that turned out. All 3 owners of Roc-A-Fella made millions, and Jay-Z is still the Hottest MC in the Game (according to MTV). Had Jay-Z decided to turn his back on music back in the mid-’90s when no one was feeling his work, or had he decided to sit and wait for some label to give him his shot, who knows where he’d be today?
  • 50 Cent was dropped from a record deal and blackballed from the music industry after he got shot in 2000. He could have gone back to the streets or some other vocation, but he took mtters into his own hands and single-handedly made himself into the most sought-after rapper 2 years later, culminating in signing a million dollar deal with Shady/ Aftermath.
  • Tyler Perry came from having next to nothing at one point in his adult life — as I recently wrote about — and now has his own film studio in which HE calls the shots, literally, as the executive producer of all his work.
  • Bob Johnson started his own TV company, and 11 years later, BET became the first black-controlled company kisted on the Nwe Yourk Stock Excgange. You thingk someone handed this opportunity to him? (And yes, BET is no longer Black-owned, but shit, for $3 billion, there isn’t much I wouldn’t sell, either.)

(I feel I’ve done a good deal of self-production of myself as well — look at this website! — but my story isn’t completely written yet so I’ll save the details for my book.)

It’s easy to see that the top performers in any field of life are those who didn’t wait or someone else to give them permission to make things happen. They went out and got what they wanted because that was the only way to get it. Of course they, and all of us, will make mistakes, but at least we can make mistakes of ambition rather than mistakes of timidity.

Ask yourself: who are you waiting on in order to get what yu want? How do you feel about this? What could YOU do, TODAY, that would put you in charge and give you the power to make moves? What’s stopping you from taking action?

Sometimes, deep down, we can be afraid of a success that we don’t even know is out there. We can be nervous about being alone as the #1 person driving the bus, so to speak. We can have loyalties and relationships that we have gotten so used to they are hard to break and/ or walk away from because it’s comfortable to stay there. But I have never heard of anyone who made it to the top by playng it safe.

People are quick to stop you before you start but will gladly step out of the way once you get moving. So stop waiting — get up and go do it!

Posted 11 months ago.

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A Great Tyler Perry Note

Below is a message written by Tyler Perry on his website (mobile link and computer link) that shares a lot about his life

Tyler Perry

Tyler Perry

and his struggle. I am a big fan of Tyler’s work and his rise to power in the entertainment industry. Tyler Perry turned down the huge payday that would have come with him selling his works to major film studios and instead opted to own all of his material, creating his own studio in Atlanta in the process. The way he came onto the scene just a few short years ago and became so popular may make Perry seem to be some sort of overnight success, but the below message (along with this  concise Tyler Perry background story)  shows that that assumption would be far from the truth.  I felt this message should be shared with those whom otherwise would’ve missed it:

October 3rd , 2009
Hi there.

I know I’ve been a little quiet lately but I’ve been in silent reflection, quiet meditation, and prayer. Turning 40 is such a blessing.  Especially because as I child I always thought I would die before I grew up.

If life begins at 40, then I owe the little boy that I was my life. Case in point, not long ago, I was brought a film to watch to see what I thought of it. It’s called PRECIOUS, based on the novel PUSH by Sapphire. I sat at home watching this movie not knowing what to expect. After the movie was over, I sat there for a long time just thinking about what I had just witnessed. I watched all the things that Precious, a 16-year-old girl in the film, went through. I watched her mother be unusually cruel to her and I realized at that moment that a large part of my childhood had just played out before my eyes. It hit me so hard, I sat there in tears realizing that somehow, by the grace of God, I made it through. My tears were tears of joy, being thankful that I made it.

Believe me when I tell you, PRECIOUS is a powerful film. After seeing it, I had to be involved. I didn’t write it or direct it, nor am I making any money from it. Oprah and I both are giving any proceeds we would make to charity. I just wanted to get as many people to see it as I can. It gave me so much hope after watching it. For everyone who has been a Precious, male or female, this movie will make you so glad you made it through.

It took me through some raw emotions and brought me to some things and places in my life that I needed to deal with but had long forgotten. It brought back memories so strong that I can smell and taste them. Like, when I was very young, my mother decided to leave my father…she had had enough of his insanity. She loaded me and my two sisters up in an old Cadillac that he had bought for her, and drove to California. When he realized she was gone, he called the police and reported the car stolen, as it was in his name. My mother was arrested and my two sisters and I were put in the cell with her. He and my uncle drove from Louisiana to California to get us. We spent several days in jail waiting for him. He bailed her out and couldn’t wait to get her into the car. He got into the back seat with us and beat her black and blue from California to Louisiana, as me and my sisters watched.  Even though I was only two or three, I know that this had to have some effect on me.

I’m tired of holding this in. I don’t know what to do with it anymore, so, I’ve decided to give some of it away…

Memories at 40: Not long ago, I was asked to speak at an engagement. I walked in and I was told that they had assigned a person to take care of me while I was there. She walked up to me, all of 5’2” of her, and asked if I needed anything. I looked at her and started to sweat. It took me back thirty-something years to her apartment. I couldn’t have been more than 10 years old when I went over to play with her son and Matchbox cars. She opened the door in skimpy lingerie. There was a man sitting on the couch, smoking. She told me that her son was in the bedroom. I was there playing with him about 20 minutes when I heard the man arguing with her. He said he was leaving and slammed the door. She came into the bedroom and told me that I had to go home. She told her son to take a bath and she locked him in the bathroom. I was at the front door trying to get out, when she came in and laid on the sofa and asked me if I wanted the key. I told her I had to go home as it was getting dark. She put the key inside of herself and told me to come get it, pulling me on top of her.

Memories at 40: “What the f*#K are you reading books for?! That’s bull*#*T!”

“You F*#*ing jackass! You got book sense but you ain’t got no mothaf*#*en common sense! You ain’t sh*t and ain’t never gonna be sh*t!” I heard this every day of my childhood. As my father would beat and belittle me, he played all kinds of mind games with me. He knew I loved cookies as a kid, most kids do. So he would buy them and put them on top of the fridge and when I would eat them he would beat me mercilessly.

My mother was out one night, as she loved to play bingo, and my father came home…mad at the world. He was drunk, as he was most of the time. He got the vacuum cleaner extension cord and trapped me in a room and beat me until the skin was coming off my back. To this day, I don’t know what would make a person do something like that to a child. But thank God that in my mind, I left. I didn’t feel it anymore, just like in PRECIOUS. How this girl would leave in her mind. I learned to use my gift, as it was my imagination that let me escape.  After he was done with his rant he passed out. Since my aunt lived two doors down, I ran to her. She saw me and was horrified. She loaded her 357 and went to kill him. Holding a gun to his head, her husband came and stopped her.

Memories at 40: I got a call not long ago from a friend. He told me that a man that I knew from church when I was a kid had died and he didn’t have any insurance. His family was trying to reach out to me to see if I would pay for his funeral. I quickly said no, but I wish I would have said yes. There is something so powerful to me in burying the man that molested me. I wish I would have dug the grave myself.

Memories at 40: I was about 8 or 9 years old. I had a crush on a little girl across the street. She would come over to my house and we’d play. She was about 12 or 13. One day she stopped coming and when I asked her why, she told me that my father was touching her. I didn’t believe her, so I talked her into staying one night. We were both asleep — she was in one bed and I was in another. I opened my eyes to see my father trying to touch her and her pushing him away. I moved in my bed trying to make him think I was waking up. He looked over at me and left out of the room. Not long after that, he beat me mercilessly for something again. Another mind game set up, so I told my mother what he had done. The blood drained from her face. We left that day. We were at my Aunt’s house and he came there about 1am. Not long after that we were back at home. Nothing would compare to the random, drunken, violent beatings I would receive from then until I was 19.

Memories at 40: We would spend the summers in the country, with my father’s adoptive mother. As a kid I was always sick. I had asthma and he hated it. He hated that I wasn’t strong and virile like him. He hated that I couldn’t be in the sawdust, pollen and the raw lumber like him. He hated that I liked to read and write and draw. He hated that me and my middle sister were darker-skinned than him. He didn’t think he could make a dark baby. He just hated everything about me I guess. Anyway, I had to go to the doctor every Tuesday to get shots to control my allergies. When his mother found out she said, “Ain’t nothing wrong with that damn boy…he just got germs on him. Stop wasting all that money.” When my mother left to visit some friends I heard what sounded like water running in a tub but it was sporadic. She came and got me out of the living room leaving my Matchbox cars on the floor. She said she was going to kill these germs on me once and for all. She gave me a bath in ammonia.

Grateful at 40: I was asked recently how I made it through all of this, (half has not even been told) and my answer to that is…I know for a fact that there is a GOD. When my father would say or do those things to me, I would hear this voice inside of me say, “That’s not true” or, “Don’t believe that” or, “You’re going to make it through this”. I didn’t know at the time what “it” was, but today I surely have no doubt that “it” was GOD. That voice always gave me comfort. It allowed me to hold on. It kept me from being strung out on drugs, from dying when I wanted to commit suicide. It kept me from being a gang banger or drug dealer. Worse than all of those things put together, it kept me from being him. It brought angels to comfort me after every foul, harsh word or every welt on my legs or back.  GOD, only GOD.

To know that the little boy that I was went through all that — he went through and made it. Then me, as a man…I have to take on the responsibility of forgiving all of those people. I owe it to that little boy that I was and, more than that, I owe it to the man that I am.  Think about it, as a child we have no recourse. We have nowhere to go. We have to endure it. But as adults, we have choices. I choose to forgive with all my might. Forgiveness has been my weapon of choice. It has helped to free me.

If you’re having a hard time getting over something in your life, maybe you can try forgiveness too. It’s not easy, but it does bring forth healing. I know that there are a lot of people out there with stories far worse than mine but you, too, can make it. To those of you who have, welcome to life. I celebrate you. We’re all PRECIOUS in His sight.

Tyler Perry

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Dressy

A funny snippet from The Sports Guy’s Vegas column :

…By the way, note to the female readers: Not everyone is meant to wear a tight cocktail dress. It’s OK. You don’t have to force it. Actually, this should be the new “Just Say No” PSA to replace the old drug ones — just a montage of overweight women crammed in cocktail dresses four times too small as innocent bystanders repeatedly look into the camera either wincing or saying “No.” We need to get the word out. This has to end.

Posted 11 months, 3 weeks ago.

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Facebook Don’ts

Had to repost a short list I read on TIME’s site about the good ‘ol Book.And I agree completely with all of it.

1. Stop taking quizzes. Nobody cares what literary time period you are.
2. If you sync your Twitter account to Facebook so that you fill others’ news feeds with a constant stream of mundane updates and references to people with little @ symbols before their names, be prepared for people to de-friend you. Maybe even in real life. (Read “25 More Things I Didn’t Want to Learn About You On Facebook.”)
3. Don’t friend someone you don’t actually know
4. If you must friend someone you don’t know, include a message explaining why you are doing so. For example, “Hi, I’m your cousin’s roommate!” would suffice.
5. Actually, no. Why would your cousin’s roommate want to be your friend? That’s still weird.
6. Don’t invite people to events if they don’t live in your city. I’m glad you still live in our old college town, but guess what? I don’t. Even if I did, I still wouldn’t waste my Friday night listening to you play music at that vegan coffee shop I frequented when I was 19 because I couldn’t get into bars.
7. I’m sorry your grandfather died of emphysema, but I will not join your “cause.”
8. Make sure all your photos are rotated in the proper direction. How will people know how fun your Fourth of July barbecue was if every picture looks like you fell over?
9. If you create a group called “Lost my cell phone; need your numbers!,” I will join, but I won’t give you my number.
10. Cryptic status updates about your mental state — “Rachel is trying so hard,” “Rachel wishes things were different,” “Rachel is starting her life over” — don’t make you sound intriguing, just lonely and pathetic.

Posted 1 year ago.

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Told Y’all I Been Networking!

Shout out to the DIME Baller’s Network for the post!

http://ballersnetwork.com/p/en/ballers/dre-baldwin-the-journey-makes-the-player/

Posted 1 year, 4 months ago.

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Competition Round-Up

Lifted from Sportsvite.com

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Meet the “Play With The Pros” finalists and VOTE!

October 15th 2007

The judges have spoken, and the “Play With The Pros” contest has been narrowed down to four finalists. Now it’s up to the Sportsvite community (that’s you) to determine who deserves a chance to tryout for the ABA. Vote Now!

Here’s a bit more information on the contestants to help you make your decision.

Henry from Houston, TexasMarquis Henry is a 25 year-old, 6′ 2″ combo guard with a 42″ vertical. Even more impressive is the work ethic that Henry displays in his highlights. He values both talent and hard work and shows an appreciation for fundamentals. He’s even invented a new training technique called “lake dribbling”.

Henry’s basketball accomplishments include Hoop It Up championships in the Top Gun division. He has also played Baseball in Japan, Boxed competitively and loves Soccer.
NBA veteran John Thomas said Henry “looked good in the gym by himself” but wonders how he will perform when tested. Vermont Frost Heave Coach Will Voigt was impressed with Henry’s “hunger to get the opportunity to show what he can do.”

Check out this additional video highlight of Henry on Sportsvite. You might think he’s using pirated software but we’re pretty sure he’s just sponsored by “Video Edit Magic Express”.

from Kileen, TexasCed’s highlights are short but sweet as he shows off a ridiculous alley-oop and a awe-inspiring break away windmill jam in organized games in a gym far far away. Ced is a 6′1″ guard from Brooklyn who now lives in Texas. He also goes by “Mr. American Airlines”.

John Thomas was a bit skeptical stating that Ced obviously played overseas “but there is nothing else posted that would lead me to believe that he has any skill”. Coach Voigt thought that Ced was clearly athletic.

Dre from Miami

Dre “SuperStar” Baldwin is a 6′4″, 180 lb. guard from Philadelphia and he has played both in the states and overseas.

Dre received the vote of Rockets point guard Mike Jameswho thought him to be the best player and most athletic. Coach Voigt was impressed with Dre’s athleticism and was amused by his original dunks. Blogger Will Leitch is a huge Baldwin fan and especially digs his social commentary.

There is no doubt that Dre Baldwin is better than the “random Caucasians” as he indicates in the title of his highlight video. But does Dre have what it takes to play in the ABA? Check out his blog and decide if he deserves your vote!

You can also check out Dre’s dunking exhibition in this video with commentary that is plenty colorful.

Owen from Saint Paul, MinnesotaWhat Owen lacks in talent and ability, he makes up for with his tenacious mean streak and amazing film production and editing skills are plain scary. Owen claims that “Every team needs a thug like me. I will fill that space like a can of lysol in a taco bell bathroom. I make Bill Laimbeer seem sweeter than a bag of gummy worms.” Coach Voigt isn’t sure about Owen’s skills but does think the video is pretty damn funny.
Owen currently throws his weight and attitude around for Team Ungliablach of Intramural Glory.

So vote for your favorite Sportsvite basketball player now. You are only allowed one vote and must be a Sportsvite member to be eligible. The winner will be determined when voting ends on October 31, 2007.

Posted 2 years, 10 months ago.

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Allen Iverson Is A Good Guy

http://www.rockymountainnews.com/drmn/nba/article/0,2777,DRMN_23922_5712295,00.html

Posted 2 years, 11 months ago.

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Another Jena 6 Update

Catch the show on CNN at 8pm, Thursday!!!

Posted 2 years, 11 months ago.

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Links For You To Learn Something

now i’ll allow some other websites and writers give their take on some of my favorite recent topics:

- the philadelphia tribune agrees with me about flavor of love.

- join the cipher is on top of the ‘N’ word.

- even some people on a yahoo! message board call ‘I Love NY’ an embarrassment.

- blogher (the community for women) with their take of flavor of love.

- Natalie y. moore of the chicago sun-times gives her take on the (sour) flavor.

- chuck d weighs in (chuck is the front man of public enemy, the group from which flav gained his fame. public enemy was the closest thing to the black panthers we’ve ever had in music. ironic, huh?

- a white guy chimes in on charm school.

- now for an intermission: don imus. has our vh1 performance vindicated him now?

- bossip.com blames the rappers.

- black press magazine says don imus can rest easy, charm school will take his place.

- even the flavor of love blog knows this is a new low!

- jack and jill politics pick up where i left off.

shall i go on?
how many of the above articles did you read?

Posted 3 years, 1 month ago.

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