Hope Is Everything…

In Mental Toughness

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Mental Health is a big topic these days. 

People are looking deeper into what’s going on in the heads of others. Especially when that person’s actions appear incongruent with (what we know about) their situation. 

Example: a well-paid celebrity or publicly-successful person committing suicide. 

I’ve never been suicidal. But I know some people who have been. 

When my sister was on my podcast in 2018, we talked about her long-term battle with depression. I wondered aloud what the difference was between depression and having a bad day, or a bad stretch of days. 

I’ve had periods of stuff-going-badly. But I don’t think I’ve ever been depressed. I asked Latoya if she could identify which was which. 

She said depression wasn’t about things going bad — losing a job, or arguing with your spouse. Depression, she explained, was an extended feeling of deep sadness, or hopelessness. 

Her depression was experienced as having nothing positive to look forward to. 

Last I heard from my sister (this week online), she was doing fine. 

Hope matters. 

Having something positive to look forward to matters. It matters a lot. 

I remember being set to fly back home from Lithuania after my first pro basketball playing experience ended sooner than expected. 

I’d been living with one goal — playing ball overseas — for 2 ½ years. And I’d done it! Now it was (at least temporarily) over. 

I had a basketball agent, but he’d been unable to find another playing situation for me and suggested I fly back home.

That was the last place I wanted to be. 

 I knew I’d be back in my parent’s house. I’d probably have to get a job again. 

I knew that anyone I saw once I was back home would have the same question: I thought you went overseas to play basketball??? 

I didn’t have much to look forward to. 

That’s the closest I’ve ever been too depressed. 

I did get a regular job. People did ask that damn question. Shit was not good for some time. 

But my agent eventually emailed me about an opportunity. I took it. It didn’t matter where it was, I was going. 

And I was excited again. 

Today, I create new stuff — podcast episodes, ideas for books, these articles — every day. Coming up with ideas is part of my daily schedule. 

As long as I have ideas, I can think of a new way to leverage my resources for getting what I want. 

I’m confident in my future. 

I have hope. 

Ideas are hope. Plans are hope. 

If you have hope, you have a reason to keep going. 

That interview with my sister, who’s a professor at UCLA now, is episode #721. 

I’d also suggest you check #694: A Good Idea Can Come From Anywhere – Keep Your Eyes Open. 

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