… Be ruthless with yourself.
Because you’re letting yourself off the hook too often.… Be ruthless with yourself. Because you’re letting yourself off the hook too often. Click To Tweet
When there’s an emergency, you never have a problem finding energy, time, focus, persuasiveness… you know, all the stuff that we don’t have when there’s no need for it.
When there’s no emergency situation pressing against you, you relax.When there’s no emergency situation pressing against you, you relax. Click To Tweet
Your foot comes off the gas.
You ease up and grow (slightly, maybe terribly) complacent.
You wake up a little bit later.
Take more time browsing social media feeds when you should be working.
You get around to your necessary tasks… eh, whenever you feel like it.
Maybe you don’t even have any necessary tasks when there’s no emergency.
You start using phrases like —
“I don’t need to do it right now, do I?”
“What’s the rush?”
“I have time to get to it.”
“It’s not an emergency, is it? Geez!”
“I don’t like to have pressure on me all the time.”
All logical, reasonable ideas.
The problem with logic- and reason-driven thinking: everyone is using this strategy.
And some percentage of “everyone” is smarter, faster and just plain better at it than you.The problem with logic- and reason-driven thinking: everyone is using this strategy. And some percentage of “everyone” is smarter, faster and just plain better at it than you. Click To Tweet
Which means, your logic and reason is 99.9% guaranteed to make you a loser.
Here’s another Great Equalizer: most of us live lives of relative safety and prosperity.
Most of our days are not filled with fight-or-flight emergency situations. We have the space to relax and smell the roses, which is generally a good thing.
It’s also why most people coast through life — some doing so at a higher level of success than others, but still generally coasting and taking it easy on themselves.
There are only three ways to stop yourself from coasting.
1) Wait for an emergency situation to happen to you.
The Challenge with this strategy: they are few and far between, often unpredictable, and you can depend on when they’ll happen.
2) Purposely create an emergency situation in your life. Crash your car into a utility pole. Gamble all your money away a week before rent is due. Quit your job with no prospects for what you’ll do next.
Now you have to figure it out!
Challenge with this: Humans have an internal mechanism that limits how much we will intentionally self-sabotage. This may be a struggle for you.
3) Have something to do, somewhere to be, and a deadline for making it happen — just as if you had a boss looming over your shoulder, expecting results, or a judge threatening you with jail time if you don’t come through.
You have to become your own boss. And not the nice-person kind, either: an asshole boss. The unreasonable, no-excuses type.
You must make demands of yourself, and hold yourself accountable to those demands. No person or thing should be harder on you, than you.
The main challenges with #3 —
Well, there’s actually only one real challenge: You don’t respect yourself enough to hold yourself accountable.
If someone you respect — a supervisor, coach, drill Sergeant — told you to do something, you’d get it done on the double.
But when YOU tell you to do something, the doing is questionable.
There’s a negotiation.If someone you respect — a supervisor, coach, drill Sergeant — told you to do something, you’d get it done on the double. But when YOU tell you to do something, the doing is questionable. There’s a negotiation. Click To Tweet
You know that, if you don’t do it, only you will know about it.
And you’re OK with that.
That’s the problem.
It’s actually the ONLY problem.
Fix that, and your whole life changes.
Where is your urgency level about life at right now? What needs to change?? Reply and let me know — I read all responses.
I suggest you check out the following MasterClasses on accountability, discipline and urgency:
#688: How To Hold Yourself Accountable Without A Coach or Trainer
#765: Closing Your Accountability Gaps
#1172: Your Lack Of Urgency Is Your Biggest Problem
#408: Sense Of Urgency: How To Develop This Key Success Tool
#757: How Discipline Creates Confidence
#4: Self – Discipline
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