How Rescue Workers Decide Who To Save

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Let’s say that a rescue helicopter goes to save people from drowning — but there are more people to save than the helicopter can handle.

How do they choose whom to save?

The rescuers are trained to know: Save the people who are swimming towards the ladder.

Those who aren’t making the effort to come to the ladder, unfortunately, can’t be saved.

If you’re anything like me, you may sometimes feel the frustration of knowing people — people who you love and want to see win — who Just. Won’t. Make. The. Effort. To create their own success.

How Rescue Workers Decide Who To Save Dre Baldwin

Even after you’ve told them what to do and how to do it.

Even after you’ve harassed and yelled at them about what to do.

Even after you’ve offered to HELP THEM DO IT.

They still won’t meet you even halfway.

You’ve run out of ideas as to how to help them. What do you do?

Here’s the unfortunate resolution: Let them drown.

The people who won’t swim to the ladder are not your responsibility. You need to deal with the people who are matching your energy and who WANT to do what you’re doing.

They can see the goddamn ladder — and by their actions, they have made their choice.

You made it available and they didn’t swim toward you, and that’s their decision.

If they drown, their blood is not on your hands. 

You can only help those who are swimming to you.

Who knows — maybe they have another plan 🏊🏽‍♂️.

Speaking of helping those who want help, you might want to get on the waiting list for my People Skills Course, which will open for registration soon. You can do that here: 

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-Dre Baldwin 

Remember: You’re Just One Bold Move Away… 

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