It’s been said that as soon as you put three people together you have politics. And in any situation where you’re dealing with multiple people, the rules will be flexible based on who you are and your relationship with the persons making/interpreting/enforcing the rules.
This isn’t something to complain about — that won’t change the rules — and it isn’t something to butt your head against — that’ll get you ostracized or fired from the group. What you can do:
1. Start your own group and make your own rules.
2. Make the situation work for you. There’s an advantage within every constraint; you can find it once you accept the existence of the constraint.
3. Break all the rules anyway, go as far as possible, and see who’s going to stop you.