It’s Unsolicited For A Reason: Save Your Advice

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Advice: The good stuff is hard to find, and even harder to give away. 

“Prop you phone up sideways when you record. This way the picture will fill the screen when you upload it to YouTube.” 

She thanked me, and I felt I’d done a good deed for the day. This was one of very few unsolicited pieces of advice I share. I usually only offer unsolicited advice to people when I know two things for sure.

  1. I’m correct
  2. The other person doesn’t know what I’m going to share with her

Which led to the offer of how to set up the phone as a video camera. Simple enough fix, right? Makes perfect sense and super-easy to implement.


A month later, I happened to see one of her new videos, which was a day old. The black bars of death were alive and well on either side of the actual footage on camera. The information I’d shared had went in one ear and out the other.


I once heard a man say he could tolerate ignorance, which is not knowing. But, the man said, he could not tolerate stupidity, which is knowing, yet doing nothing.

[shareable cite=”@DreAllDay”]We’re all ignorant at times, not knowing. But we should never be stupid, knowing yet doing nothing. [/shareable]

Sometimes people don’t ask for advice because they’re at stage 1 of learning. Stage 1 is ignorance – you don’t know what you don’t know. You don’t even know something could help you. I’d place 35% of the population in this group.

The other 65% of people don’t ask for advice because they don’t want it. This 65% knows what comes with knowledge. It’s called responsibility, and most people don’t want anything to do with it. So they deliberately won’t seek ways to improve, actively avoid knowledge, and strive to remain the same, stagnant person. Stupid. They are highly successful in this pursuit.

Understand: most people are going to remain the same. Most people aren’t ambitious, and don’t want to go to the “next level” of anything. Not everyone is into self-delevopment, nor do they get excited about your progress. Some people want the black bars on their YouTube videos – and dammit, who are we to take that away from them?

Save your unsolicited advice. There’s a reason no one asked for it.

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