Too many egos.
My senior year of college, we had some real basketball TALENT on campus.
While we were all at an NCAA D3 school, our situation was peculiar for a couple of reasons.
For one, our basketball team’s coach was a former NBA player who didn’t want to bother with building traditional recruiting networks the way most college coaches did — things such as attending summer camps or creating relationships with high school coaches and scouts.
Our coach’s recruiting hack was to find D1 and D2-level talents who had, for whatever reason, not worked out at previous schools. Via that strategy, that year, we had two pro-ready point guards and another on the wing who are still, to this day, some of the best players I’d ever played with.
Then, we had a 6’6” big (this is about the max height of the big men at the D3 level) who had been recruited by the previous coach, who’d just averaged 20 points and 10 rebounds the season before and been Team MVP and First Team All-League.
Then there was me, a late-bloomer player with pro-level athleticism who hadn’t become “good” until getting to college three years earlier and hadn’t had any scholarship offers.
So, like I said: we had a lot of talent on campus.
I don’t how many teams you’ve played on, but the biggest problem with having all that talent is always the same thing: who’s gonna take a backseat when it comes to attention and shot attempts and clout amongst the fans to make it all work?
With our team, the answer was, essentially, “nobody.”
Or, better stated — the people who did take a backseat did so only because they couldn’t wrest control from someone else.
Everyone was trying to THE Star, battling for one singular spotlight.
Long story short, it didn’t work. That talented group broke into smaller factions where everyone could get their just due.
The fact that group didn’t play well together is a great tragedy.
I recently heard Basketball Hall Of Famer Steve Nash pose an interesting question: with so many athletes creating their own brands and businesses outside of sports these days, why don’t some of them team up and create a big conglomerate of a company? Why is everyone doing their own, solo thing?
I agree with Steve’s theory as to why: everyone wants to be The Guy.
It’s hard to be the #2 or #3 person in a group when you’re next to the #1 person every day. Familiarity breeds contempt. You’re seeing all the accolades and attention that comes to the #1 person. It’s only natural to wonder what it would feel like to have some of that for yourself.
Social media only exacerbates these ideas. Online, everyone can become a star — and you don’t even need substance to back it up.
There’s a reason why All-Star teams come together for only ONE game. All those egos can’t hold themselves back for much longer.
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