You’re Leading When You Have Something They Want

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If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more, you are a leader. – John Quincy Adams

I read a story about how, as an NBA youngster, Kobe Bryant wanted so badly to be a leader on the LA Lakers. But nobody wanted to follow him. Later in his career, post-Shaq and with a few more NBA championships to his name, Kobe did command the respect he’d always wanted.

Leadership happens when people see something in you that they want. We instinctively follow people who have something that we want. That something may be physical appearance, a style of dress, a way of carrying oneself, or a certain skill. Look at the most-followed people on social media: Each has something that their followers want.

Kobe became a leader because he

  • Was widely respected for his achievements
  • Had won championships as The Man on his team, paving he was more than just a #2 guy
  • Proved he could kick any NBA player’s ass on any given night on the court
  • Had fought back from adversity (the Shaq drama, rape charges, losing seasons) to meet victory

There were a lot of NBA players and fans who wanted the same things. So they followed Kobe.

If you want to lead people, you must display something that people want. Otherwise they don’t need you and would not be missing anything without you. My People Skills Course is the best way you can begin on this path.

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What do you got?

5 Comments

  1. i got the( Don’t try to do things you are not good at) like am good at mid range shooting and basket penetration but am not that really good with three point shoots so with the team i need to use the things i have mastered in my skills arsenal and work alone on the things that need working like my three point shooting but should the coach know that my three point shooting need improvment or should i work alone so it wont hurt the idea that the coach has about me?
    what’s your opinion Dre

  2. Dre i got a question you might help me answer with your experience am now on a new team and my postion is small forward and i toke your advice about having a game and asking what the team needs not what i want or need to be but what i want to know is what to look for if i want to be the most valuable player in the team i mean do i need to gather the skills to play in every postion or it’s a character thing i mean what to look for in the team to know what they need do you have any built points that can help?
    my goal in to dominate my team and the libyan league before considering overseas so i can make an impact there
    thanks in advance

  3. Dre i got a question you might help me answer with your experience am now on a new team and my postion is small forward and i toke your advice about having a game and asking what the team needs not what i want or need to be but what i want to know is what to look for if i want to be the most valuable player in the team i mean do i need to gather the skills to play in every postion or it’s a character thing i mean what to look for in the team to know what they need do you have any built points that can help?
    my goal in to dominate my team and the libyan league before considering overseas so i can make an impact there
    thanks in advance

    • You have said it yourself: See what the team needs and fill the roles *which you can fill*. Don’t try to do things you are not good at -- that will hurt the team. “Having game” is always happening, you continue to improve every day as long as you play.

      Get game experience and learn, you do not need to gather any more information. Good luck!

    • You have said it yourself: See what the team needs and fill the roles *which you can fill*. Don’t try to do things you are not good at -- that will hurt the team. “Having game” is always happening, you continue to improve every day as long as you play.

      Get game experience and learn, you do not need to gather any more information. Good luck!

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